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In the Next 30 Seconds, You’re About To Be Kissed. Do You Know What To Do?
It’s the moment you’ve been dreaming about…and dreading.
Wouldn’t it be swell if someone would give you the lowdown on how to handle your first (and second and third) smooch? There are probably things you already know (a French kiss means tongues are touching.). But we also have lots of answers to smooch stuff you’re unsure about (it’s not weird to keep your eyes open during a kiss). Read on for everything you ever wanted to know about kissing—lips, breath, hands, tongues, teeth and even (ew!) saliva. It’s lip service about lip service. Mwah!
HOW TO KISS
Before the kiss, and immediately after the kiss, is just as much a part of the kiss as your guy’s lips. Here are the basics for a mellow, yummy kiss.
Before the Kiss
Look at him. Eye contact isn’t always easy. You’re nervous, you like him, maybe you’re even a little self-conscious about your lip gloss or your breath. Please, stop thinking for a few long seconds and just look at him, this adorable boy, right in front of you. When you look into a guy’s eyes, you’re giving him the green light that you are into it.
Turn toward him. Whether standing or sitting, you want to angle yourself so that your body is toward him, not just your face. Keep your hands out of your pockets and arms unfolded. Avoid fidgety behavior, like twirling a strand of hair or, way worse, biting your nails. Relaxed, open body language can be a very effective non-verbal invitation for him to lean in and smooch.
Lean into him. Even if it’s super-subtle, try to lean in a little and get as close to him as possible. When kissing you is on a guy’s mind, he’ll appreciate the friendly, geographical adjustment.
The Kiss
Kiss him back. A kiss shouldn’t start with an instant open mouth. First contact is simply touching mouths, then responding slightly. Think of it as a peck, but in super-slow motion.
Chart out the new territory. Kiss the top of his top lip, the edge of his bottom lip, lightly, softly—you’re in no rush.
What to do with your tongue. OK, here’s the part where less is more. He might jab his tongue into your mouth; he might keep it in his. Whatever he does, you can follow his lead (if you want to), but never, ever stick your tongue deeply into his mouth (refer to “Yucky Kisses,” next page). P.S.—Breathe! Through your nose or mouth. Both work.
Touch him with your hands. A girl can’t go wrong by placing one hand gently on the back of his neck, the other hand softly on the side of his face. Sure, there’s a lot to think about, but you can move your hands, too. Touch his hair, his ear, his shoulder…gently. If you’re really comfy with him, you can wrap your arms around his neck and pull yourself closer. Nice.
After the Kiss
The breakaway. If the guy has his tongue in your mouth (and you’re OK with that), you don’t want to just yank away from him. So keep meeting his lips with your lips, then pull away ever so slightly—enough to get his tongue back in its cage—and repeat the gentle kiss of just your lips touching, the slo-mo peck.
Look at him. The post-kiss gaze—sounds cheesy, but that’s what it is—is an affirmation that you did or didn’t like it. However silly it sounds, you can tell him with your eyes how you felt about the kiss…which could get you another one, if you’re into it!
Keep your hands on him. You’ve just bonded with him, so it’s perfectly lovely for you to keep your hand on his shoulder or softly touching his neck. Again, this could get him to lean in for round two.
TYPES OF KISSES
Yummy Kisses!
Want to know what kinds of kisses rule? Kissing class is now in session….
The Big Little. The value of a quick peck should never be underestimated. Whether on his lips or his cheek, a Big Little is a great way to show affection and tell a guy you’re interested!
The Butterfly Kiss. Want to send the ultimate “kiss me!” signal? Lean in and ever-so-slightly touch his cheek with your cheek. Then see if you can graze his cheek with your eyelashes. Don’t be too obvious—it’s just like you’re brushing up against him. Nice to do on the dance floor.
The Soft Serve. A soft, slo-mo peck is about as delicious as kisses come. A kiss doesn’t need to be two people playing tongue hockey for it to be wonderful.
The Triple Crown. This is a succession of Soft Serves. Instead of planting just one slo-mo peck on him, hit him with three in a row. What you’re doing is building steam…until you get to the Full Symphony (see below).
The Full Symphony. French kissing, when done right, is like an epic dance move. This is, as you’ve surely already gathered, where your tongues get involved. But only if you’re ready!
Yucky Kisses!
Here are the worst of the worst—and what to do if you get a kisser who falls into one of these categories.
The Dental Exam (a.k.a. The Oral-All-Over).
The Kiss: He’s exploring your gums, teeth and entire mouth like his tongue has a dental camera on the tip of it. Yuck!
The Diss: Slow Captain Periodontics down by kissing his upper lip, then moving to his lower. You want to show your hottie that kissing you is about tenderness, not toothiness.
The Grand Canyon (a.k.a. The DNA Sampler)
The Kiss: His mouth is so open it’s like a huge spit hole on his face. This kisser also likes to stick his tongue as deep into your mouth as possible, as if he wants you to say, “Aaahhh…”
The Diss: Simply pull back a little so his tongue can’t reach past, say, your second molar. You want him to kiss you, not check your tonsils.
The Flopping Fish (a.k.a. The Wrestler)
The Kiss: He’s got two moves with his tongue: 1) vigorously up, and 2) vigorously down. When he’s really warmed up, he might go side to side. This guy isn’t into kissing in a sweet, gentle way. He’s into kissing like he’s on the mat.
The Diss: Before you toss this one out of the ring or back to sea, see if you can reel him in. Your tongue is actually a muscle, so tongue-wrestle his into submission by pushing it up and, well, sorta “pinning” it. Then you can expertly take over the kiss.
The Hot Tamale (a.k.a. The Gas Mask)
The Kiss: This one isn’t so much about the kiss as what’s behind it. The kiss might be a winner if your dude didn’t taste like fermented burger burps.
The Diss: If you’re bold enough to offer him a mint, do it and carry on with the kissin’. If not, breathe solely out of your mouth. It’s not much help, but it’s better than his nasty exhale burning your nostrils. And next time, take a bite of his chili burger—it’ll soften the blow.
The Slime Puppy (a.k.a. The Lollipop)
The Kiss: This guy’s a licker. Too much spit. He’s treating your face like it’s a double scoop of Cherry Garcia.
The Diss: Maneuver so that when he goes in for a lick, the tip of his tongue meets the tip of yours. Keep at it until you find a rhythm, a style. Two tongues doing the tango can be tasty. One tongue lapping up your cheekbone is just plain icky.
THE BOY. THE PLACE. THE TIME.
Who Will You Kiss?
Of course, you don’t want to become a kissing bandit, so you should only smooch someone if you actually like him. But it helps to know if he’d be a ready participant (see “5 Ways to Tell He Wants to Kiss You,” next page). You could suggest a kissing game at the next boy-girl bash, then cheat by getting in cahoots with your BFF. Have her wrangle it so the guy you like ends up kissing you with a blindfold on.
Where Will You Kiss?
Kissing should be done when you and your guy are somewhere alone together—duh. It’s getting him alone with you that’s the hard part. A good trick is to put yourself in his path. Like when you’re at a dance or late-night sporting event, conveniently be thirsty right as he goes to get a drink. When you’re at a party, just happen to be waiting to use the bathroom just as he’s exiting—hallways are excellently snug! If you already have a willing kissing partner, here are a few spots to sneak a smooch:
1. In your living room. Mom’s busy baking up a batch of brownies in the kitchen, right?
2. Under the bleachers. This cliché earned it’s reputation for good reason!
3. At the park. Leaning against a tree, side by side on the swings, sitting on a picnic table with your feet on the benches… Can it get more romantic?
4. Next to the gym. Schools are big places and, after dismissal, relatively free of students and teachers. Hang out and, when the coast is clear, gently take his hand while giving him your best Katie Holmes no-teeth, come-hither grin. Then, give his hand a tiny pull. How irresistible is that?
Unless, of course… Some schools have no-PDA (no public displays of affection) rules. If your school does, save yourself the trouble (trip to the principal’s office, call to your parents, detention) and just kiss him anywhere but on campus.
When Will You Kiss?
Without argument, the darker the time of day, the better. The early evening is terrific—like when you’re at a soccer match or baseball game—because the glow of dusk is extra flattering. Nighttime is a winner because it’s more romantic. And something about less light lessens nerves, which helps him (and you) muster up the gumption to go for it.
5 WAYS TO TELL HE WANTS TO KISS YOU
1. He stares at your mouth when you’re talking…and when you aren’t.
This guy is surveying the territory, sister!
2. He has minty-fresh breath. Nothing wrong with a boy who
prepares—so considerate!
3. He makes excuses to get you somewhere private. A smart boy knows you’re more likely to agree to a kiss if people aren’t eye-balling your oh-so romantic smoocharoo!
4. He keeps licking his lips. A subconscious giveaway! Oh, and this trick works if you want to send a subliminal “kiss me!” signal.
5. He finds ways to compliment you. Your kisser is trying to warm you up with flattery. Look him in the eye, and give him a confident, “Thank you so much.” That eye contact could advance to mouth-to-mouth contact.
You’re doing it wrong if…
1. You can’t breathe.
You don’t want to kiss him, take a huge breath, kiss him, take a huge breath. You’re not swimming freestyle—you’re kissing. Breathe!
2. You keep banging teeth.
You’ll feel his and he’ll feel yours once in a while. But if you keep knocking teeth, concentrate on keeping the kiss soft.
3. You need bibs.
A kiss is going to be a little wet because mouths are wet. Then again, if there’s so much saliva that the two of you are causing little spit drips (ick!) the kiss is way too wet. Again, the best advice is to slow down.
4. You can’t find a groove.
There you are, really kissing him, getting into it big-time. And there he is, mouth open, barely with ya on the smooch. Maybe he was into a light kiss, while you were ready to dazzle him. Kissing is mutual, so you’ve gotta vibe each other. That’s why starting with the slo-mo pecks and working up (or not) to a bigger kiss is key.
AWESOME Kiss Tip!
Uneasy about your whole lip-locking technique? Try slowly saying the word “peaches” while really articulating with your lips. Say it with a lot of breath, but don’t pop the “P” sound so much that you spit spray straight out of your mouth. Slowly, softly, breathily, roll “peaches” and hold your lips in the position of the final “S” sound. There you have it—a perfect pucker for any kiss.
Never Been Kissed?
You haven’t had any sugar in your life yet? No worries—you will. According to the Dictionary of Sexuality, the average human being will spend two full weeks of her life kissing. Break that number down, and that’s roughly 336 hours or 20,160 minutes of kissing. Whew! Get ready to pucker up…
GL on the DL #1
Still unsure if you’ve got it right? Try this: When kissing with an open mouth (slightly open, not a giant “O” shape), gently breathe in as if you’re taking the air from your boy’s mouth. Delicious.
GL on the DL #2
Practice Makes a Perfect Pucker
Sorry if this sounds dorky, but you can practice alone by kissing the palm of your hand. A tad embarrassing, sure, so GL recommends you do this after you go to bed or maybe even in the shower. First, practice the slo-mo peck, and work your way up to getting your tongue in on the action. Your palm will be sensitive to the touch, so you’ll be able to gauge if your tongue is too pointed or stiff, or if you’ve got too much saliva in on the deal. Remember that you want to caress his lips and tongue with yours, so that’s what your practice kiss should feel like to you—a soft, gentle caress with your mouth. Practicing really does help. We promise not to tell anyone.
GL on the DL #3
One of the rules of the universe is that a great way to know what to do…is to know what not to do. Here are a few ways you could sour the sweetest of kisses.…
Bad Breath. Mints are cheap, so invest and keep them on hand for the unexpected lip-lock. If you know beforehand that you’re going to be kissed, avoid any stinky foods (garlic, onions, strong coffee, even peanut butter) the entire day.
Too much tongue. You really don’t want your kiss to be like unleashing an excited lizard deeply into his mouth. Equally unappealing? Moving your tongue around super-fast. Don’t mistake tongue-lashin’ for passion.
No reaction. He’s kissing you? Be sure to kiss him back. To put it bluntly, you don’t want to just receive his kiss with an open, idle mouth. Respond by kissing him your way.
GL on the DL #4
Bad Breath, Be Gone! Let’s get scientific for a sec and deal with why we get bad breath—and what to do about it. Ninety percent of bad breath is caused by gases produced by bac-teria in the crevices of the tongue. And you thought it was all about the burrito.
Bad breath buster #1: Drink water. It’s harder for bacteria to grow when you’re hydrated, because your mouth has more saliva.
Bad breath buster #2: Mints, breath strips, gum—there are whole aisles devoted to minty (or cinnamon or whatever) fresh breath. Go find your fave.
Bad breath buster #3: If you don’t have any mints, go into a bathroom and wipe your tongue off with a napkin. Even better, scrape it with a plastic spoon from the cafeteria. Sounds weird but, in a pinch, it works.This is so embarrassing, but i need help with kissing. guys %26amp; girls advice!?
relax, it works out when you're not so nervous, just relax before you kiss him and it'll be a great one!
Everybody kisses diferently but, as long as you keep it soft and flowing it should be alright, some people are just not compatable when it comes to kissing so even if you're a good kisser it will be a horrible experience if you kissing someone who can't kiss. If you ever kiss a person that can't kiss you can either try teaching him or let him go because kissing is a huge part of the relationship.
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As you kiss, just wait a while. If it's real love, start grabbing their tounge with yours. Then, grab lean your arms on his shoulders. He should hold your waist.
okay well..heres somethings to do and not to do
not...
-pretend like its a family member (for a peck) eww
- bite
do...
- swallow
- breath
- freashen breath with mint ect.
peck on lips..
dont stick out to much and lean over to him
its quick so its easy
cheack-
just lik peck
make out...
let him lead and just go with it!! dont forget to swallow..
some help on this is to spell his name with you tounge itll help on what to do =]
pretty much kissing is easy!
o-k well first off its best to let him lead this if you are sure he has more experience in doing so. Best thing is to relax your lips a have them parted just a little. As he begins to press his lips to yours,follow in motion as to what he does. Everyone has their own unique style to kissing. Just let him know that you are fairly new to this and I am sure he will take his time so that you become comfortable and gain the right gist.
Good Luck!
Go on google or wikipedia or something. This is an awkward question to answer....I don't know how to explain it, you just do it. I could show you but I can't really tell you. You learn from experience.
The First Thing Is Don't Be Scared ! This Will Make Things Worse.. I Know Its Easier Said Than Done But... Yeah.. Erm When The Times Right You Will Know. Then Just Lean In And Slowly Kiss... As You Get More Comfortable Then Gently Massage His Tongue With Yours Or Follow His Lead... You Will Just Fall Into It... Don't Worry !! You Will Be FINE !! x x
you just kiss them like a regular kiss and if the guy gives you a lil tounge in the mouth then you just follow his tounge as well but first make sure your breath is smelling good like a gum or candy so that way you guys could play with it while kissing
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